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How to Eliminate Tattling

 
tattletaleHave you ever had a conversation with someone, when you just wanted to get a few things off your chest and vent a little bit, but their reaction left you feeling dissatisfied?
 
Perhaps their first response was to jump in a try to fix it for you.
 
Or maybe their reaction was a little bit more defensive. The other person may have even asked, “So, what do you want me to do about it?” with an attitude.
 
It can be so frustrating when you are expecting one outcome from a conversation and you get something completely different.
 
Let me ask you this – How likely are you to Read More→

Are You Feeling Stuck?

 
Turtle-StuckAre you feeling stuck lately? You know that feeling when either it feels as if everything is changing all at once and you are stuck because you are having a hard time deciding which way is up. Or it could be that you have been working really hard at trying to make something happen and your progress is slow at best. And if you are really honest, it seems as if you have made no progress at all.
 
Never fear, you are not alone. It seems to be in the air lately. I have had so many conversations this week alone with people who are feeling stuck and are really feeling frustrated by their “stuckness.” The worst part of feeling stuck is discovering the more you struggle, the more stuck you become. One friend this week described it feeling like being stuck in quicksand.
 
Well, you know me. I love a good physical metaphor to describe an energetic situation, so I looked it up and learned some interesting things about quicksand.
 
There were three facts in particular Read More→

The Identity Challenge

 
girl-looking-in-mirrorHave you ever engaged in personal development work and soon after discovered that some of your personal relationships just aren’t working for you the way they used to? You might even have experienced what feels like rejection from some of the people who are closest to you.
 
It can be confusing right? You may have thoughts like,
 
“But I am doing so well now. Why aren’t you happy for me?”
 
Or
 
“Wow! I thought you would be as excited about this as I am!” But you are disappointed because that is simply not the case.
 
I used to think it is just part of the process and when I start to notice these thoughts it is time for some new friends. But recently I have developed a different understanding about why this phenomenon happens.
 
You see it is all about the power of identity, and it may surprise you to know Read More→

Do You Parent Like This Pig?

pigI love going to the movies. I just enjoy the whole experience. I love making the decision about what movie to go see. I love figuring out what theater to go to. I love getting there in time to get my favorite seat. I love being in a place where I can focus my attention on one thing and one thing only for an extended period of time. I love the way my brain works to fill in the missing pieces of the story as new information is revealed.
 
After the previews of coming attractions and before the actual movie you are there to see, there are usually a few short theater sponsored clips. It could be an ad for the snack bar or some kind of public service announcement about silencing your cell phone and refraining from texting during the screening of the film.
 
Recently, I had the opportunity to see a new clip. This one is not only humorous, it has an important message and demonstrates a great principle for powerful parenting.
 
The clip goes like this. Read More→